The Karpman Drama Triangle: A Fancy Tool for Victim Blaming
“Because you are always trying to rescue him you make him feel like a victim. This forces him into the role of the abuser.” — Our couple’s councillor. (She said I made him abuse me. I wish I was making this up).
I’m not going to say that the Karpman Drama Triangle is controversial. I’m going to say it is fucking ridiculous. What the actual fuck is this victim blaming pile of dog shit?
Dating back to 1968, the Karpman Drama Triangle has a unique way of viewing a victim, by labeling them as having a “Poor me” attitude. In this model, the victim cannot make decisions, solve problems, and cannot take pleasure in life. The victim seeks out the persecutor (a.k.a. abuser). The rescuer is a classic enabler, who avoids their own problems by solving those of someone else. The persecutor is the person who says “it is all your fault”. If you’d like, you can read more about this absurd excuse for victim blaming here.
I’d like to share my experience with this triangle of nonsense, and the way that victim blaming slapped my right in the face. I wish I was making this up.
I’m making moves to escape my current narcissist, but this isn’t the first time I’ve been married to one.
Back in time I was sixteen years old, in grade 11, and I met a handsome young…
