How Papercut Insults Made me Stronger
Papercut insults are those statements that have a plausable denyability, and that could have been interpreted as insulting, or not. One of these papercuts isn’t a big deal, but a thousand papercuts over time can be devistating.
I did sometimes try to protect myself and make a ‘big deal’ out of one of these quasi insults, and he made me feel ‘crazy’ or like I was overreacting. To someone outside of the relationship, if they were shown this one moment in time, I would look like I was not reacting in a reasonable way. I was being ‘dramatic’.
Why would I get so angry over something that isn’t even that insulting, or at least has a plausable other motivation?
It doesn’t look like abuse, but a slow erosion of my confidence and self-worth had created a chasm over time — just ask the Grande Canyon how she feels.
Yesterday I recieved this text: “You shouldn’t feel slighted that she isn’t meeting you in person, she probably can’t because of Covid restrictions”.
Seems like a normal message that anyone could have sent, right? Seems potentially supportive even, without any context.
Let me explain why this is a papercut insult.
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