Break theTrauma Bond and EscapeYour Narcissist
Why can’t I leave him? I know I should leave him and he makes me feel like the dirt under his boot, but still I stay. It isn’t all bad, and I know how to ‘handle him’. I’m in love. My life is eggshells, and my soul — it is death by a thousand paper cuts. Who is this person in the mirror?
I need to leave. I can’t leave.
Sound familiar?
I hope there are many ways to break a trauma bond, but here is one of the strongest ways to free yourself:
Ignore all love bombing and future faking!
Love bombing — extravagant adoration or gifts that the narcissist uses to hook you.
Future faking — Making plans for the future that call to your deepest desires. Perhaps this is the promise of a child, a house, a holiday, or shared activities. It might even be the promise of future kindness.
I’m over it now, but previously when my almost ex narcissist wanted to reel me back in, generally after the cycle of abuse needed to be reset, he went in hard with the love bombing and the future faking.
In the past, before I knew what a trauma bond is, I would be SO relieved when the cycle started over again.
